There is a stereotypical way that many people think about divorce. Most people immediately think of two spouses angrily yelling at each other when they are getting a divorce. They lose all sense of civil discourse and they can't agree on anything. Every issue in the divorce is dragged out as long as possible, and it take a big courtroom showdown to finalize all of the complexities in their divorce.
However, this is more of a scene out of a movie than it is a real life depiction of divorce. Sure, some couples can't work together when a divorce is ongoing. But everyone is different, and every divorce is different. Some couples choose a collaborative approach to their divorce, which can not only expedite the process, but also make your post-divorce relationship with your ex more amicable.
A collaborative divorce is different than divorce mediation. Divorce mediation sees the spouse agree to have a third party, the mediator, represent them impartially. But with a collaborative divorce, both spouses retain their own attorneys and they will also be given access to a host of other resources, such as therapists and financial advisers to aid you in dealing with your divorce and your post-divorce life.
If you live in Ventura County, California and are going through a divorce, but you feel as though a traditional approach isn't the right one for you and your soon-to-be-ex, then consult with the Law Office of Edward S. Matisoff. We can discuss your options and review your case, while answering any questions you may have about collaborative divorce.