You might be one of many California parents who line your kids up in front of the house to take pictures on the first day of school. If you have kids of different ages, you might find that some are more accommodating than others regarding your little family tradition. The fact is, traditions, routine and daily structure in a child's life are valuable tools that help most kids thrive.
If you filed for divorce this past summer, such things may be especially helpful as you and your children cope with the situation and move on in life. The back-to-school season is typically a time of adjustment, whether you and your spouse live under the same roof or are navigating your first school year as post-divorce co-parents. If the latter is the case, building a strong support network from the start is a key factor that will help everyone involved adapt to a new lifestyle.
Your divorce affects your children's teachers
Your kids' teachers definitely don't need to know all the details of your personal life. However, it may be helpful to speak to them as soon as possible to let them know your children have experienced some major life changes over the summer.
It's also important that teachers are aware of any issues pertaining to a court order, such as who has permission to pick up the kids at school or which parent they should contact if a child is ill or another problem arises.
Children love both parents
Like all good parents in California and beyond, you have your children's best interests in mind at all times. This idea prompts many co-parents to agree to attend special school events at the same time, such as meet-the-teacher night or a holiday concert.
You don't have to pretend to be best friends if you and your ex attend the same school event. Your children, however, are likely to appreciate the fact that you're willing to work as a team for their sake.
Is transportation a key issue since your divorce?
It's not uncommon for divorce to prompt changes in a child's transportation schedule for school. Will your kids ride the same bus? Are they traveling back and forth between households this year? You can keep stress to a minimum by informing the school district of any special needs your kids have regarding transportation.
This is also important in situations where the court has ordered supervised visitation. If your ex does not have legal permission to pick up your kids from school, the faculty and other school administrators must be aware of the situation.
Where to seek support if problems arise
The good news is that you don't have to try to handle everything on your own. You likely have friends or family members who recently divorced, as well. Supporting and encouraging one another can make the adjustment period a lot less stressful.
In situations where an ex is disregarding a court order, or some other custody, visitation or child support issue arises, many California parents rely on experienced family law attorneys to help them seek swift and fair solutions to their problems.