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Try these communication tips if your spouse refuses mediation

| Jul 16, 2021 | Divorce Mediation |

One of the top reasons a spouse refuses every divorce solution suggested, including mediation, is because they want to remain married. Sometimes, it can take a while for a person to accept that a marriage is over. Many feel that if they refuse to cooperate or participate, you might give up and agree to work more on the relationship.

We have discovered that when one spouse decides a divorce is necessary, there is little the other can do to change their mind. After summoning the courage to request a divorce, most remain committed to ending the marriage.

Can you talk your spouse into divorce mediation?

To answer the above question in simple terms, we would have to say no, it usually does not work that way. However, with patience and good communication, you may successfully show your spouse that you are committed to divorcing as amicably as possible. The communication tips below can help.

  • When you feel angry or upset, reserve your mediation discussions until both of you are calmer.
  • Try to avoid falling prey to your spouse’s attempts to engage you in trivial arguments or discussions.
  • Keep your conversations focused on ending your marriage, not extending it.
  • Always remain civil and respectful when talking over divorce mediation with your spouse.

It can also help to educate your spouse about the benefits of mediation. For example, explain how mediation will give your spouse a voice when resolving divorce issues. Making sure they understand that they retain some control over the outcome of the divorce may also help.

It is also wise to make sure you understand how divorce mediation works in Westlake Village, California, too.