Several factors determine the psychological impact a divorce has on children. One of these is how well the parents work together to raise their children. This is important because the children need to know that they have their parents’ full support and love.
Parents going through this process should remember that their actions can shape how the child reacts to the changes. They can learn coping skills that empower them to work through the challenges that they’re facing.
Address their concerns
Some children who are dealing with their parents divorcing will feel anxiety about spending time with both parents. They may worry that if they have a good time with one parent, the other parent will be upset. Both adults should reassure the children that enjoying time at both homes is important.
Children may also be worried that their parents won’t both be there for special events. When discussing the new way of life with the children with your co-parent, you should address how you’ll handle those events. It can mean a lot to your child if they see both you and your co-parent at events, supporting them even though you two don’t live in the same home.
You should ensure that you’re paying attention to what your children are saying and doing, especially in the first year after the divorce. This is often the most difficult time, which means that the kids will likely need your help processing emotions during that year.
Any parent who’s going through a divorce should ensure that their children have the support they need as they learn to live life in two homes. Working out the terms of the parenting agreement so that it’s reflective of what’s best for your child is an important step toward this.