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Divorce mediation may be viable option for saving time and money

Deciding to end a marriage in court may no doubt be one of the most major decisions an individual California resident makes in life. Just the thought of divorce is enough to make some people's blood pressures rise. A high priority for many who are currently preparing for divorce is financial stability. Some choose divorce mediation as a means to save both time and money.

Mediation is an alternative to conventional litigation, although some may ultimately determine litigation necessary even after entering the mediation process. Mediation is definitely not the best choice for every couple; however, for those on amicable speaking terms, it may be a good fit. It typically takes place in a private setting where calm discussions may occur to negotiate all terms and agreements of a divorce settlement.

Life changes and, sometimes, so do child support orders

When a California parent is obligated to pay child support by court order, it is crucial to comply. Nevertheless, once a particular order is issued, it does not necessarily mean it is permanent. There are several circumstances that may arise that would entitle a parent to seek a formal modification of an existing child support order.

A parent's living situation may change at any time. Sometimes, such changes are expected or even planned. Other times, an emergency might occur or some other completely unexpected change that affects a parent's ability to fulfill an existing child support obligation.

Mother of 2 says Miguel Cabrera should pay more child support

One of the highest paid professional baseball players ever, Miguel Cabrera, is entangled in a court battle regarding two of his children. The children and their mother do not live in California, but in a southeastern state. Cabrera, who plays for the MLB Tigers, resides with his wife and three other children. At issue is child support, namely, that Cabrera's former mistress says she is no longer satisfied with $12,000 per month as she believes her children are entitled to more.

The woman lives in what has been described as a palatial home with an in-ground swimming pool. When she met Cabrera, she was married. However, she and Cabrera had a romantic relationship that apparently lasted several years and produced two children.

The ins and outs of child support in California

There are numerous couples in California who will get divorced this year. If you are one of them and you have children to consider, you may have a lot of questions about how child support works.

Every state has different guidelines when it comes to child support, and these guidelines may change occasionally, so it is easy to get confused about how it all works. Common questions parents have often include who has to pay child support, how much they have to pay and for how long? Some may even want to know if the court can adjust child support if there is ever a need.

Child support payments not necessarily set in stone

Life changes. If you are divorced, you are no doubt well aware of that fact and have likely already navigated some very significant changes in your own life. As a California parent, one of your highest priorities during divorce proceedings may have been keeping the central focus on your children's best interests. You knew you'd probably be paying child support and were quite willing to do so because you love your kids and want what's best for them.

As time went  on, everything was going fine regarding your new parenting plan and your child support payments; that is, until your boss told you that all bonuses and incentive payments were being eliminated to reduce overhead costs. Things were already fairly tight financially since your divorce, but with your bonuses, you were able to make ends meet and keep up with your payments for the benefit of your children just fine. You know you won't be able to do so if you lose that extra pay.

Divorce mediation may be crucial component to successful plan

Getting divorced is no small matter and generally leads to many significant challenges in a person's immediate and long-term life. Those in California who are married and have children often have to get creative to overcome various obstacles impeding their abilities to achieve agreeable settlements. Everything from marital property division to where children will spend future Thanksgivings and other holidays are important issues that need to be resolved as amicably as possible before a court order can be set. To avoid long, drawn-out battles, spouses who remain on relatively good terms may be able to use divorce mediation to arrange most of their plans.

A key factor is mediation is a willingness on both sides to cooperate and compromise as necessary in order to develop a plan that focuses on the children's best interests. Each spouse may retain personal legal representation to facilitate the process. If a spouse is not willing to sit down and discuss things amicably, then, it's probably not the best option for that particular situation.

Father runs into legal trouble for paying child support

Even when a California parent does his or her best to adhere to an existing court order following divorce or another family law matter, it is no guarantee that obstacles will never arise. A father in another state can no doubt attest to that fact, as he recently struggled to rectify a problem regarding his child support payments. It seems a documentation error unleashed a series of legal problems.

The man said he takes his responsibility to pay child support very seriously. In fact, he claims that not only has he never missed a payment, not a single payment has ever been late, that is, until recently. The man went to a disbursement center and copied what he thought were the numbers to his former wife's bank account so he could send his payment.

Collaborative law may help with an out-of-court settlement

When a California married couple chooses divorce as the most viable option to resolving their relationship disputes, they may want to find a way to sever their ties without going to court. Especially if they have children, there is typically quite a bit of negotiating that must take place before each spouse can move forward to his or her own future lifestyle. Collaborative law may help those seeking out-of-court settlements.

In the 1990s, a group of attorneys developed a system for those who wised to simplify the divorce process. It only works if both spouses are determined to work together in an amicable fashion to achieve a fair and agreeable settlement to their divorce. All issues, including child custody, finances, property division and anything else divorce-related may be discussed in collaborative meetings.

Property division doesn't have to be a battle during divorce

The thought of going toe-to-toe with your spouse during your divorce proceeding may leave you feeling stressed and drained. This is especially true if you and your spouse have been married for an extended period of time and have thus amassed a large number of assets or high-value assets.

Splitting up the property you accumulated during your marriage can be a daunting task. However, understanding the law may help you to make personally beneficial decisions regarding this aspect of your divorce proceeding.

Woman in another state says child support system is fractured

Not every parental agreement following divorce goes as planned. Some California parents face serious challenges when former spouses refuse to adhere to existing court orders regarding child support, custody or visitation. This can make life very stressful, to say the least.

In fact, a woman in another state says she has just about reached the end of her rope after tirelessly working to enforce an existing court order mandating her former husband to pay child support. She believes she knows the state where he currently lives but admittedly does not know much else about his life at this time. This is the cause of one of many frustrations because she said officials who are supposed to be tracking him down to enforce the child support order keep asking her personal questions regarding his physical appearance, the answers to which she has no way of knowing.


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