As you go through your divorce, you’ll run into issues that you and your spouse argue over. You may not have the same opinion on the custody arrangements for your children or be undecided on how to divide your assets.
To help you get through these issues, it helps to know what some of the most common fights are and why they happen. Here is what you should keep in mind.
The first issue many people run into is with custody arrangements. Getting enough parenting time is important, but coming up with an exacting schedule can be hard. Discussions over custody could break down into arguments, so focus on doing what is right for your child, even if that isn’t necessarily what you want.
If you get into an argument about property division issues, the way to overcome it is by first looking at what you need versus what you want and determining how flexible you can be. Negotiation is key.
Setting up spousal support
Spousal support is normally granted to a spouse who needs additional support following divorce or as a way of repaying them for support during the marriage. If this is a problem in your divorce, negotiating a larger share of your assets or agreeing to a lump sum might be beneficial.
Determining child support
Child support can be a touchy subject. Fortunately, you can look at state guidelines and work with your attorney to figure out what a reasonable amount of support would be.
Nitpicking the details
Finally, if you or your ex-partner are nitpicking the details of your divorce, you could end up dragging it out. Focus on talking to friends and family about your personal needs and wants, talk to your therapist about negotiating and how you feel about the negotiations so far and try to find a balance between advocating for yourself and nitpicking the smallest details.
These are five common causes of fights during divorce proceedings. If you want to overcome them, you need to focus on discussions and negotiations in and outside of the court room.