You and your spouse are splitting up, and you are considering mediation as your method of divorce. You know that mediation allows you more control over the final outcome. You know that it protects your privacy and can help you keep your relationship cordial. But you do not know the exact steps of divorce mediation.
Every marriage is unique, as is every divorce. That said, there are a few key steps in divorce mediation that every couple will encounter.
The main steps of divorce mediation
To reiterate, your divorce is unlike anyone else’s. The particulars of your circumstances may vary wildly compared to another couple’s. But if you are considering mediation, you can expect to go through these major steps:
- Hire a mediator
You and your partner will have your own attorneys to represent you. But you must still find a neutral mediator to work with you. You should select a mediator who has extensive experience, positive client testimonials and has helped many couples find mutually satisfactory solutions.
- Attend your mediation sessions
Working adults have very busy schedules, as you no doubt know firsthand. But you, your spouse, your attorneys and your mediators must find time to have several mediation sessions, some of which may last hours. You also have the option of conducting the sessions remotely.
- Reach your compromises
In your sessions, your mediator will help you find answers to property division, spousal support, child custody and child support. This is without a doubt the most difficult part of divorce mediation. The length of time that your mediation takes will depend entirely on you and your spouse. You can end divorce mediation as soon as you reach an arrangement that satisfies both of you.
- Submit your paperwork to the court
Finally, your attorneys will draft the divorce agreement and submit this to the court. Generally, the judge will approve the arrangement as long as both parties have agreed to it. Once this step is complete, the court will finalize your divorce and you can move forward with your life.
Whether your divorce is simple or complex, fast or slow, contentious or amicable, divorce mediation can help you and your ex reach mutually beneficial results. As you encounter each step of the process, remember that you are not alone. Many people have endured difficult divorces and emerged stronger than ever before.